(You know, the curse your parents put on you when you're about 8, the one that goes, "I hope you have one just like you someday!")
(I must have really been a joy to get not only LP, but Mini Me as well. Hoover is to pay for Disgruntled Husband's childhood.)
It's a very strange thing to watch yourself as a child, as a grown-up. His mind works very much like mine did. His complaints are the same complaints. His annoying little whine? I originated it.
I suppose imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, but does he have to imitate me so well?
Like him, I was always very comfortable talking to adults. A friend of mine commented that he had more confidence than she ever did in talking to adults. (I will say though that he has no problem arguing with adults, and I wouldn't do this with anyone that wasn't my parents.)
With all this awesomeness I have passed down to him, there is a glaring down-side to all of this. My childhood, as far as making friends, wasn't so hot. And I'm afraid he's on the same path.
For the most part, he puts off a confident air, acting like he doesn't care what the other kids are doing, but last month, he and I were on the porch, and he became emotional talking about the other kids in his grade.
I gave him some suggestions for navigating the school year, you know, from the "I-know-now-what-I-didn't-know-then" file, and they were all met with logical arguments and consistent doubt. Which makes me sad that I can't really help him with this side of life. It's something he's going to have to navigate and overcome himself.
And childhood lasts a while.
|Me, the summer before 4th grade|
|LP, the spring before 4th grade.|
I was reading something online once about intelligent kids that have problems socially in childhood. This article said that many kids that fit in this description will feel more comfortable talking to their teachers and other faculty than their peers in school. That's definitely LP. And then this article said that Bill Gates was one of these kinds of kids.
That would be okay if he turned out like Bill Gates.
Monday, he and the others were with JDub (since she has nothing better to do right now) and she told me a story how he was trying to have a conversation with her middle daughter (they're the same age and he has a slight crush on her), and her daughter never sat down and ate her cereal as fast as she possibly could to get out of the conversation.
JDub laughed because LP was so sincere in his conversation attempts, and her daughter was acting like an 8 year-old girl. Which she is.
College is going to be your time to shine, LP. I have no doubts about that.
I was relaying this story to ESM yesterday, and she told me that when we saw her a few weeks ago, she felt bad that LP was trying to talk to her, and she kept having to leave the conversation and deal with her baby. Then she said something so sweet about him.
"You know, he's a cool kid. I'm not big on kids [other than her own], but I could easily hang out with LP. Because it's like hanging out with an adult, and I like him."
It did melt my heart, but I also pointed out that she likes hanging out with me, and LP and I are basically the same person, a few years (and genders) apart.
If he truly is going to turn out like me, at least I know the story of his childhood will end on a high note. That, and look for his blog in 2033.